What Women Really Want in a Man

In sales there is a known principle that says that you should listen to what the client says in order to understand what he needs.

However, when it comes to understanding the opposite sex, there seems to be no worse mistake than listening to a female opinion. Women (and men) rarely understand what they want.

You might hear a girl say: “I hate maniacs, the last 3 guys I’ve were total jerks, and they mistreated me and gave me no respect. So I’m never going to date such guys again”. But there is some paradox here right – she actually dated these jerks, so what you can really understand from her words is that jerks are the guys that women find attractive.

There are several reasons for which women don’t tell you the truth. One of them is because they don’t really understand. The second is that it’s hard to admit in what a woman really wants in a man.

What Women Really Want

If a girl could actually tell you what she looks for in a guy and what she finds attractive in men, you will probably hear something like: “I like sexual guys who creates the opportunity for us to have sex and who makes me feel comfortable about my sexuality, in spite of my excuses.”

Women do like to be in relationships with “serious guys”, but it’s not something that a woman needs from a man. If a girl is attracted to a guy, he simply needs to establish the right atmosphere – and then casual sex can be an acceptable choice for a girl.

If a woman needs a good friend, she can use her female friends. When it comes to choosing a man, her first priority will be to have good sex.

Don’t Expect Her to Initiate

Don’t expect a girl to lead you towards intimacy or sex. Some women might to do so, but in general, consider it is your job to do so.

You see, women constantly live in fears of being seen as “sluts”. Showing sexual desire by women is still considered inappropriate in our society.

It’s also connected to the naturally passive position a woman will take. Women anyway look for a man to lead – so again, don’t expect her to suggest having sex by her own.

And this is the reason for which most guys fail to get sexual with women. You need to be the one who make sex possible and who makes her feel comfortable with this, so she has no feeling of being slutty.

After having sex with her, you want her to feel as if it “just happened”.

The Vacation Effect

You’ve probably heard or even noticed that women abroad tend to be very free about having casual sex.

Do you know why this happens? It’s because they don’t fear that somebody will find out or blame them for being slutty.

So if you want a girl to have sex with you, make sure she feels comfortable with you about sex. Nobody else should know about it except you two.